Deep Thoughts by Hilary

An SNL classic. Jack Handy. Hilarious. Usually like 20 seconds long or something.

My deep thought is not really hilarious and probably not short. I don’t know. I’ll figure it out as I write here. I have been thinking about this a lot and in the middle of the night last night as I was having trouble sleeping came to this decision. I decided to deactivate Facebook and social media for while.

I got my photography Facebook site rigged up to Instagram so I can still promote my business. That’s all I plan to use it for now. I’m pleased I can keep FB messenger to talk to my best friends, which is a handful. Otherwise, bye bye. No posts to say I was leaving. Just cold turkey- gone.

I’ve gone through these phases before and I come back. I guess I have fear over missing out on things. I like congratulating people and let’s be real, celebrating my own accomplishments. Pretty dumb. It’s like this need to be liked which is stupid. Time to be done with that.

Then you add on all the people shouting on there and being so negative, I couldn’t take it anymore. No one listening. And the people who do the work and research and want to talk can’t talk. No one wants to have a conversation. Tired of it. On ALL sides of the political spectrum. People can disagree. Have their own views. And still be good people. It is so complicated. Social media tries to fit gray issues into a black and white spectrum. I have had enough with that.

I like the funny things. But you know, I can find funny things elsewhere. I liked seeing family photos but then realized, I still see the family photos of people who matter anyway. And my own son? Maybe it’s a good thing to keep it to this blog and let him grow up on his own. When he wants to share them or if he wants to, he can.

I got to thinking that I liked that. I enjoy seeing the old family photos but it’s because I didn’t grow up with it slammed down my throat. It is fun to look back into the time capsule. More special to be private.

Everyone I admire gives more than they consume. Time to step up. I’ll write and share my journey here. I don’t think I will be able to resist funny anecdotes about John or his cute videos and photos. That has a better place on here though than Facebook as far as he’s concerned. Mostly my family will enjoy that anyway. Plus I’m way too much into photography to not share anything. Impossible.

I have my flaws- big time. I care too much about what the wrong people think. Pretty selfish. I should care more about the people who matter and what they think. Spend my energy on them. This is my attempt to work on that a bit. Listen and read more. Speak less- although, I do want to find a way to speak up on things to make a difference when I can and when appropriate. Many thoughts on that but that’s a whole other thing. So many thoughts about all these issues.

Although I haven’t made a post since Friday and have barely been on the platform since then, I guess I have to still say it’s day 1! I might be back to social media land but for now, I’m out and feels great.

This is way longer than Deep Thoughts…


5 thoughts on “Deep Thoughts by Hilary

  1. I think Facebook has gotten toxic. Lots of folks coming to that conclusion. This is a much better place where people interact thoughtfully even when they disagree. And it’s much more supportive. There is Instagram to promote things and here and some other venues. The way Facebook functions is really not healthy. The problem is when someone messages you on facebook you have to activate it to see it –well my phone won’t work right on the message thing, so maybe you can just do it that way — but I have to leave it on if I need to hear important personal correspondence, but I don’t have to look at the timeline crap at all. I think there are other places to promote work, too, that are much more positive, and there must be better ways to try to make a difference in the world. That isn’t doing it. Not to mention, they are going to make Zuckerberg cave and Facebook will start censoring thought. Soon.

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    • Yeah you can’t use messenger on the computer without it being activated. But you can as a messenger app on your phone. Course it kinda stinks to have to type on the phone but that’s ok. Usually short messages occasionally with that. Which is what I will do for those kinds of things. I have my business page on FB connected to Instagram. So that will be slick too. Otherwise won’t be on it.
      Yep- I think this allows people to interact way more thoughtfully.


      • And of course, if people follow you here, there’s SOME reason for it. It’s not always political, usually not, could be some artsy reason, if you write fiction, or if you cook, or if you are into the carnivore diet, for instance– there is always something you have in common with someone. And the same when you follow them. So right there, you are ahead of the game. Same situation with people who do Youtube and those podcast deals. they get really big following. You would be good at that, but since I’m a writer and not just promoting something, the written word seems to make more sense– unless I was reading from my work.


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