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“You know mom?” or “You know dad?” or sometimes, “You know?” 

I tell him something. He says “no mom.” as if he’s got some great argument to refute me. But it’s usually just what he wants to do on repeat. 

I tell him we are dropping something off at a friend of ours. He asks if he has any kids. I say no, and then he says, “oh. Who’s his big girl then?” (haha just a distinction between kids and adults but funny. Like I’m Joe’s big girl because I am a grown-up and we are married.) 

Now his big thing is to be nosy. When we go to a new place or new house. He says he just has to “go inside and check what they got.” No, you do not. 🙂 

A Weekend in Elk Rapids

Well it is Wednesday- haven’t written in awhile. Rainy day today. Did some errands with John Michael. Wet day but pleasant day.

Monday we dropped off some Traverse City cheese to Mike and LuEllen. Oh! That reminds me I still have some. Yessssssss.

Last night we dropped off some TC Whiskey to Joe’s grandpa. John helped water the flowers. So far, Lew likes the whiskey!

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We went up to Elk Rapids for the weekend this past weekend. Really nice time. Good foods and good drinks! Went to Traverse City Whiskey and The Cheese Lady. Cooked lots of good stuff. Good company. We will be going back in about two weeks again. 🙂

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So got some work done here- lots of photography work. Going to be working with my new speed lights tonight to get used to them for off camera flash reasons. Exciting times. Did some work on a project mom and I are working on. Really need to get out and exercise but it’s so gloomy. I’ll do it as long as it doesn’t start to get lightning involved  (electricity as JM would say). My house is trashed again. Just doesn’t take long for that to happen.

Anyway… I best go see what John Michael is up to. Have a good Wednesday!

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1 Week Facebook Sober

And it feels amazing. Not even one twinge of regret. I get that it’s only been a week but I seriously love it. Along with the deletion of Facebook, I also spend a lot less time online. It feels so nice, so freeing.

Not just that Facebook was something so negative and so not what I wanted to see anymore, it’s also a time suck. And information overload. We just aren’t designed to consume information at that rate. Not to mention we can’t synthesize that much information and stay healthy. The space feels good. I can look up information and let it simmer for awhile before coming to my own thoughts on the matters.

I wouldn’t say I’m less busy- it’s just that I get to be busy with things that matter more. So that feels better too. My mom said something awhile back about how you used to go tons of time without seeing people or hearing from them. That is true. It seems so bad to people now in today’s reality. But I think it has its pluses. I am lucky enough to have experienced this for the majority of my childhood and adolescence. People really weren’t connected the way we are now until I was maybe halfway through college. I had a carphone and we had some cell phones in college. People still called on them and texting was a big drag. I didn’t have a smartphone until Joe and I were married.

I’m still old enough where sending an email used to be mind blowing. I was in 8th or 9th grade. It took FOREVER to send this email. But we were pretty excited about it. And remember those eCards? Oh man. Those were all the rage. Those are examples of cool things that shouldn’t have gone away. At least with emails and eCards you have to CREATE something. Not just regurgitate. I think live journals and stuff boomed in mid high school and we did that sort of thing. MySpace maybe although I didn’t have that. I think my brother did. Later in college I tried that for a hot second. AOL instant messenger became a thing maybe in high school too. We did have that in college for sure.

Anyway the emails used to take so long (dial-up yo) that we really didn’t do it anyway as a regular thing until maybe high school. All through high school I still wrote notes on real paper (I have the evidence). Made real honest to goodness scrapbooks even my senior year in high school. Developed all my photos at the drugstore. I spent hours on the phone (sorry to all parents involved) with my best friends. We went on walks and bike rides and went to each other’s houses. Even in high school I had to call and ask “Hi this is Hilary. May I talk to Margaret?” My kid will probably never know that. Geez.

I know this sounds all very “back in my day” and it’s annoying when people do that I know, but my separation from the online world other than my email, article reading, and some blogs feels a lot more like that time. Which is a good thing. I fill the space up with thoughts. We need the space to think right. We just can’t consume 24/7 even if we consume “good” things. I don’t really want to go back to dial-up though…

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So what’s been going on? Playing with trains a lot (on JM’s end). He consults me a lot to help. Hung out in real life with Joe’s parents which was really fun. Facetimed my parents so John Michael could show them things. He’s been really into that lately- wants to grab the phone and do the showing himself. 🙂 Cooking. Doing some reading and writing.

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Sunday brunch! Drank some San Pellegrino (basically just carbonated juice) out of some old family crystal wine glasses!

My brother John called me up over the weekend which was really nice. Laughed until it hurt. He’s a funny guy. Sweating during the workouts and also sweating during not working out because we live in a house with no AC. Summer school just ended last week so it’s nice to have a bit of a break from that. I’m trying to not get too concerned about things just yet. The district has to make some decisions before we can do much anyway. So time to recharge. I have to take advantage because normally this time of year I’d be smack dab in the middle of band camp. Going to be doing some photography gigs and projects. Tons to do around here housework wise. Traveling to Elk Rapids this weekend which should be nice. 🙂

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So one week? Feels amazing. Don’t foresee going back anytime soon.

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Hamilton!

Happy almost 4th! Tuckered out. Did my running this am and also cleaned up this house. No easy feat with a toddler who follows around making new messes in my wake. Plus so much sticky. Fingers crossed it can hold off to be this clean for at least 1 day. It will be trashed tomorrow I promise you. 🙂 I had to take pictures because I seldom get to look at it this clean. I do have to give my son some credit. He did try to help a lot today and apparently thought the siding needed to be scrubbed with his tooth brush. Hmm.

Random- this Rubicon was parked next to me at the store today and they are just the coolest. Wranglers are dope! Makes me wanna take my doors off.

 

The original broadway cast of the Hamilton musical is on Disney starting today so we are going to have a little viewing party tonight.  Excited to kick back, cook, and have some fun. Joe’s parents are coming. Making some spicy pork chops, asparagus, and smashed garlic potatoes. Apple crisp for dessert. All American. All set to go.

Joe might have 2 pints of Sam Adams or work on 3! Or maybe this Joe Tea? Nah, I already drank it.

Look at that stud as he runs with John in the backyard!

Ok well, I’m off. Happy 4th!

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Deep Thoughts by Hilary

An SNL classic. Jack Handy. Hilarious. Usually like 20 seconds long or something.

My deep thought is not really hilarious and probably not short. I don’t know. I’ll figure it out as I write here. I have been thinking about this a lot and in the middle of the night last night as I was having trouble sleeping came to this decision. I decided to deactivate Facebook and social media for while.

I got my photography Facebook site rigged up to Instagram so I can still promote my business. That’s all I plan to use it for now. I’m pleased I can keep FB messenger to talk to my best friends, which is a handful. Otherwise, bye bye. No posts to say I was leaving. Just cold turkey- gone.

I’ve gone through these phases before and I come back. I guess I have fear over missing out on things. I like congratulating people and let’s be real, celebrating my own accomplishments. Pretty dumb. It’s like this need to be liked which is stupid. Time to be done with that.

Then you add on all the people shouting on there and being so negative, I couldn’t take it anymore. No one listening. And the people who do the work and research and want to talk can’t talk. No one wants to have a conversation. Tired of it. On ALL sides of the political spectrum. People can disagree. Have their own views. And still be good people. It is so complicated. Social media tries to fit gray issues into a black and white spectrum. I have had enough with that.

I like the funny things. But you know, I can find funny things elsewhere. I liked seeing family photos but then realized, I still see the family photos of people who matter anyway. And my own son? Maybe it’s a good thing to keep it to this blog and let him grow up on his own. When he wants to share them or if he wants to, he can.

I got to thinking that I liked that. I enjoy seeing the old family photos but it’s because I didn’t grow up with it slammed down my throat. It is fun to look back into the time capsule. More special to be private.

Everyone I admire gives more than they consume. Time to step up. I’ll write and share my journey here. I don’t think I will be able to resist funny anecdotes about John or his cute videos and photos. That has a better place on here though than Facebook as far as he’s concerned. Mostly my family will enjoy that anyway. Plus I’m way too much into photography to not share anything. Impossible.

I have my flaws- big time. I care too much about what the wrong people think. Pretty selfish. I should care more about the people who matter and what they think. Spend my energy on them. This is my attempt to work on that a bit. Listen and read more. Speak less- although, I do want to find a way to speak up on things to make a difference when I can and when appropriate. Many thoughts on that but that’s a whole other thing. So many thoughts about all these issues.

Although I haven’t made a post since Friday and have barely been on the platform since then, I guess I have to still say it’s day 1! I might be back to social media land but for now, I’m out and feels great.

This is way longer than Deep Thoughts…

 

Dairy, Fathers, Doctors, and Lake Adventures

Last week we got to pass out dairy products to the community which was heartwarming. I liked seeing my kids and we enjoyed doing something good.

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A very Happy Father’s Day to all the dads in my life. I didn’t get to see my dad or grandfather but will see them soon. 🙂 I did make some good food for Joe and mowed the lawn for him. Lovely day.

Remi just turned 6!

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Both kids went to the doctor and got good reports. Remi lost 3 lbs. John Michael is growing like a weed and is now 3’4”! Wow.

 

We had a nice weekend up with Joe’s mom and dad at Boot Lake.

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Had fun making that little video. I plan to make another one for my family in Elk Rapids coming up soon!

Some other random photos! Lots of sweating and exercising. Some amazing meals.

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In other random news… there’s no denying this kid is my kid! (He looks a lot like my husband Joe from the side though. Good mix!)

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And now we have this duck. We are at one with nature around here. Well that’s the update for now. I best be getting back to my jobs of work. Have a great week!

 

 

 

Happenings

Whew, busy busy. That’s how it always goes. One thing ends and you think, “wow I’ll have so much time.” But that’s never the case. Something always fills it up. JM and I have been busy! And I am back doing a little summer re-teaching to get our music department pupils back on track.

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We have been busy working, exercising, cooking, learning to ride bikes (JM), playing outside in the hot weather, trashing the house (again JM only), gardening (blah- picking up all those helicopters!), watching birds, falling down (JM of course), and taking walks.

In other news, today is exciting because today is Day 90! I am proud of this. A promise I made to myself to be active for at least 30 min. a day. (3 days a week I do intense workouts and I’m pretty firm with that. HIT training, jogs, sit-ups/push-ups, weights etc. The other days are dancing or pilates or walks/bike rides. The one rule is 30 min. a day no matter what.) I was going to celebrate with a mojito but alas, Joe accidentally threw all the fresh mint away. Oh well. Wine it is!

 

Joe’s cousin Jake has a little lawn care business that he recently sold shirts for and donated some money to a group of kids. That’s very cool of him! We bought some and we do our own lawn care, but happy to have some Imig swag!

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Next week I have lots of work to do on photography projects!
Hope you all have a good weekend!

Last Day of School

Well here we are here on June 9th. I can say without a doubt that it’s been the craziest year  of all the years I’ve been teaching. So many twists and turns. Ups and downs. Heartbreak and happiness. Back in early March, I could never have fathomed all the changes we went through and continue to go through. I made some mistakes. I did some great things. Overall, I’m really proud of the resilience and tenacity I brought into this season. Not sure this will be written the best- just thinking as I go.

When all of this began, I set some goals. One of them was, that with the blessing of being given time that I would spend more of it with my son and husband. How have I done with that? The honest answer is that I was hit and miss. I had a hard time drawing already murky lines (I think all teachers can relate) between work and home life. It became even harder when we are lucky to have our jobs. The pull to stay always connected was ever there. It was incredibly hard to work full time at home with a husband that also works full time. With my son here full time. That said, I did a great job at times. We had many dinners at our table together which was something I really wanted to get going on anyway. The cooking was therapeutic. I had more conversations with my husband. John and I learned and played a ton more than we normally would have. Still have some more work to do with being 100 percent present with them and everyone. I will keep working on it. That gets into my technology goal of putting it down more.

Another goal was to get into a healthy morning routine again. I am proud of that. I didn’t make it every morning. I set a goal of moving my body 30 minutes a day in some capacity. MWF I do some running/peak exercises and push-ups/sit-ups. T/Th I alternate between dance and pilates. Sat/Sun is just a walk with Remi and/or John. Bike rides and walks interspersed when I can. I am proud to report that today was day 80 of moving my body every single day. Even if it wasn’t always intense, I moved everyday. Seems like a dumb thing but it can get easy to get gripped into work or just get tired and not address it the way it needs to be. So… day 80 for me!! I also wanted to sleep better. I have ups and downs with that. But mostly getting much more than I normally do.

As for school? We did the very best we could. It was incredibly sad at times to see kids go through things that they missed over and over again. It was hard as a teacher to miss those things. It is hard to see kids struggle with this new form of learning at times too. On the flip, I also saw some kids excel. We had laughs and tears. Music trivia and band lessons. Loss but also letters and unique events that ordinarily wouldn’t happen. I am really proud of the way my colleagues handled it, switching everything on a dime. We got some major curriculum writing done. Had some extremely inspiring and motivating band webinars for how we move forward. One more tonight about teaching band in the fall. Lots of work done in the band conference.

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So I guess to sum up this time- I tried my best. The house is frequently destroyed.  There’s alway something on the to-do list. I really think we did the best we could given the circumstances. We were lucky to have jobs and our health. We used them the best we could.

In funny news, I’m pretty sure JM is going to be working for Nate Mann one day. John: “I’m not gonna do just anything. I will just puff on the train.” (I know that doesn’t sound good haha, but he means the train puffing).

Also- John thinks it’s cool to sit and watch me exercise as a spectator.

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Tomorrow begins summer school and I will be working a bit each day with students who still did not pass term 4. We may do some summer lessons/band camp as things change (if they do- we will have to monitor). Since my meetings should be a bit less during this time, I plan to get back into my photography projects. We also need to spend some time with my family and Joe’s. I feel really bad for not calling them these past two weeks- it’s just been a bit of a zoo. So plan to check in with them very soon (hopefully tomorrow or Thursday). I also plan to take some time for rest because I very rarely get to. Shut off the computer and recharge. Need a bit of a break.

I’ll be calling you soon, mom! 🙂